A few years back I went through a phase and put some distance between myself and the people that were toxic for me.  I am one of those friends that will stick by someone to the end, that’s who I am, and I’ve always thought that it was an endearing quality to have....but a quality that can easily be taken advantage of.  So I have this friend, and I’m going to call him out on this blog because he’s just pissed me off for the last time.  Snapper and I met at work and he was the one that went through all the CISCO classes with me for the past year.  I love my friend Snapper dearly, just as I do with all my friends, but when his manic twin comes out of hiding he is the biggest dick I’ve ever known.  I continually put up with his crap and behavior during this periods because I like to think that it’s not possible for one person to be that much of a dick at any given time.  He does this every few months or so, then he’ll get excited about something and wants to tell me about it, I listen and give the support that any good friend would do.

Now that Snapper is in a new job he finds himself under pressure to impress.  Snapper tends to perform at 300% when all that is expected of him is 100%.  I get pressure, and I don’t fault him for that.  What pushed it over the edge for me this time is that I expressed concern for his overall well-being and work/life balance and he just crapped all over me.  He started spewing on his diatribe about how he has three things in his life that matter to him, his dogs, running and work...anything outside of that is not worth his time.  I got crapped on all because I asked him if he wanted to go get a mocha with me at lunch today.  Again this is not the first time that he has acted like this to me, but this time I’m done taking this behavior from him.  I don’t need it and I certainly don’t deserve it from him.

Ending friendships are the worst for me.  It makes me feel like poop, it really does.  Am I overreacting?  I don’t think that I am.  I’m just tired feeling like crap when I all did was care about someone.